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Tara: hey Vicky so what’s the plan for today

Vicky: Nothing just planning to sit at home and chill

Tara: But I have been working full week and need to go out to get some fresh air

Vicky: So that make sense to sit at home rather than going out .So you sit back and relax

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As most of you will agree this is the beginning of new fight and miserable ending to nice weekend. I should say killing of peaceful holiday. Mostly fights start from very trivial issues, but then takes form of messy, horrible and taunting wars (Rani ki jhasi on battle field fighting for freedom)

By now the small argument has become ego problem that today I will not be the one who will say sorry.

To the continuation of above argument

“Tara: I really want to go out whether with you or without you

Vicky: do as you want I am not coming but remember I will not speak with you after that”

Dilemma, dilemma, dilemma….??????,,,///

So now what to do how to change the situation? And you become the in charge of situation. Most of the times you get so outraged that you don’t give a damn about wearing your thinking cap. But I think it’s always good to come to a mutual agreement .For both sides Win -Win situation. Now I will reframe the sentence which will make more sense and solves the problem

“Tara: darling(be a little mushy) you know what I was thinking if we can go see the Music system you wanted to badly because I think we are not having plans for weekend

Vicky: Ya I think that’s a good idea. Up let’s go this weekend. I have seen a new upcoming model it will be interesting whether it s really that good.

Tara: Sounds good lets go to the Mall (XYZ).They have good electronic stuff (Bubble forming in mind haa!!This way I can shop and see the new collection of Fahrenheit)

Vicky: DONE

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I hope the conversation can go like the above but it’s really difficult to follow and be scheming. All I know things can be improved in every relationship and in marriage you learn something or other new every day. With time you know what to say when. If one day you are fighting than next day (metaphorically) you will be so much in love that you will forget that you ever had fought. I feel marriage is an institution which teaches you how to be diplomatic, compromising, forgiving, loving, and positive and learner. I just believe never say never and never leave any argument in middle just finish it off and move on.

If the above conversation dint end the way I had shown then there would have been a fight, a lost weekend and a couple who at the end of Sunday sulking Why? Why? In god name I spoiled my beautiful weekend arguing. Guess what! This is what marriage all about full of ups and down .It’s a roller coaster ride.

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