Today I am going to write about something that has always been a mystery to me and that is love. It is one of those trying topics of life wherein I see so many people involved in it but hardly do I find somebody who can answer the ‘question what is love?’ Is it sitting in a park hand in hand with your partner for the whole day or is it hanging around for the movies or is it just flirting around with the most perspective options around or is it feeling for someone so much that you make sure that you marry them or get into other long term relations if they exist? Is it trusting someone so much that you can live with them day in day out without making regular contracts of marriage? Is it getting mushy and romantic all the time with a teddy in your hand or a ring in your finger on the phone all night or is it making sure to send a ‘good morning’ message everyday? What is an open relationship? What is a commitment? If I am in a commitment then why did I end it all with my boyfriend or girlfriend and see them with someone else only a few days after? What is a soul mate? Who is the right person for you? Why do the shades of love fade after a few years? Do love marriages work better than arrange marriages? Why do people fear arrange marriages? How can you live with a stranger for the rest of your life? How can you change partners just after a break up when you know that you have shared a time of your life with that person? And finally when will I get to meet the love of my life? There are many more questions that I need to ask, however I fear the scope of this article.

What is love? Is it expressing an emotion that arises mainly due to sexual desires in you for a person or is it a much broader term? We often read stories that are categorized as ‘love stories’ however it is ridiculous that we restrict love to such narrow definitions as above. Love is everywhere…. If you are attached to your dog, you love it. If you are attached to your mother you love her, if you disclose yourself completely and with full rectitude to your girlfriend you love her too!! However let me add this, if you have found your partner because she is beautiful or is the coolest dude of the class and so you have fallen for him/her, then please get a hold on yourself, you don’t love her/him, you are just attracted to them for many other different reasons. And please don’t expect such partners to be loyal to you always as if today you are the testosterone rising or estrogen secreting human, tomorrow you may not be, and that unfortunately is the case always.

Now that we have come on loyalty, let us raise this issue with an utmost veracity, even though I must admit that I want to elaborate further on the above ideas of love which I may do, unless I forget amongst other issues to be discussed in this article. What is loyalty? Is it staying with your partner always regardless of the fact you love them or not? No. My perception of loyalty asks me to have balls to tell my partner that even though I respect him/her, but that is not enough, and that things have changed between us than what they actually were. Of course I must admit that you will always love your partner, it is the growing differences with them that makes it difficult for you to stay with them longer. It is difficult for someone to take it initially; however, unless you are not happy in a relationship, your partner is always going to feel suffocated. It is better to throw away the caution due to the societal norms and set your bird free. Again here I want to request that please don’t make it just an excuse and go on a ‘hurting’ spree of varied partners. You will end up with no love at all and that hurts even more!!

To be very honest, love is one of the simplest emotions you can ever feel. I am talking about the love that you feel for a stranger and to talk about its dictionary meaning, honestly, it is mainly the sexual desire that you feel for that person. However if this desire is supported by sweet surprises or with elements of loyalty and trust, life becomes a holy place to live. Just let the emotions flow. You don’t need roses or candle light dinners or diamond rings or late night calls or good morning messages or bootless sitting in the parks or watching boring movies only to get empty theatres. It is just calling in the middle of the working peak hours to tell your partner that you love him/her or sharing the quandaries of the day and making sure he/she have a time of their life listening to them. It is not about knowing every second of the day of the other person, it is about feeling special in the time they give you, however it be. So guys love your sweetheart, but, make sure they feel free from the societal clutches of commitment, loyalty or trust that we have discussed are absolutely different from what people think. Just love them….

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