Yes, why not?
Don’t we observe as of now all kinds of days – Valentine’s day, Children’s day, Teachers’ day, Mother’s day, Father’s day. Why is ‘wife’ missing from the above list? What has she done to be deprived of this honour? She is a mother all right but her primary role as wife should not be forgotten. It would appear that the world has indeed forgotten her.
Till recent time, one officer by the name S. Narayanan, the Administrative officer of a Marriage Hall in Chennai,India used to celebrate what could be called “Couples’ day”. He hired a marriage hall and invited all the married couple to gather there for some fun and frolic. Men of different age groups and from all walks of life dressed like grooms along with their proud spouse came to this particular hall for the ceremony. Some grooms were in their 70’s and their wives appeared as coy as they were on their wedding day years ago. This was done on 30 August. In the year 2008, nearly 1008 couples attended the ceremony and the practice seems to have died down in the last two years or so. Why, I wonder?
True, a wife’s day could be commemorated inside one’s own home also but a public show has its own charm. Several people get to see you. You become a cynosure of all eyes and a role model for youngsters. Your own children will go ga ga adoring and blessing you with gifts and kisses. Won’t that be a grand nostalgia?
Many Indians celebrate the sixtieth year wedding day. On attaining the age of 60 by the father, the children would get their parents married for the second time at a home ceremony. In the Indian language it is called ‘Sashtiaboorthi’. This is a great occasion, isn’t it? The children conducting the wedding ceremony and making their parents recollect their good old wedding day years back ! So, why not observe a “Wife’s day” to honour the mother?
An Indian wife, is a real Home maker in the literal sense. She shoulders the entire burden of the family while letting her husband have a life free of any worries. She is truly a God given gift to a man and this annual function would reflect the men folk’s gratitude for her.
90% of the Indian wives are absolute home makers. Their sole job is to administer the home, bear children and rear them up and also be a companion to her husband. They do accept that the husband is the head of the house and she is his assistant.
The other 10% happen to be working women – full working women bringing in a pay packet sometime larger than the husband’s. The latest trend shows that the Divorce rate is high in the homes of working women who seem to have developed an ego that they are no less in competence and status and could command a voice in the home running possibly not admitting that the husband is the head. This is the starting point of domestic disharmony and invariably leads to the break up of the marriage. I wonder if in such homes, the husband would ever be willing to observe the Wife’s day and thank the lady for all her devotion to him !
I suggest 30 December be celebrated as “Wife’s day” the world over henceforth. I don’t think even the Western nations have reserved a day in honour of the wife. Isn’t it high time they did it? Accordingly, will everyone kindly gear up for 30 December this year?
While it may not be necessary to gather at a particular place in large numbers, the day could be observed and rejoiced at inside every home where the wife cum mother is honoured profusely by the husband and treated with gifts and tributes. It’s my wish that 30 December be accepted as the “Wife’s day” the world over and the Lady of the Home be showered with love and respect.
In some social clubs, they observe a day called “Husband’s night” whereof it is the wives who would be at the service of men including serving drinks and taking the hubby for a dance and so on .. A very good notion of applauding the husbands. But then, why don’t we have “Wives night” in these clubs. My friend rebukes me and tells , “Don’t be stupid, man. Don’t we look after the ladies well and ensure they are comfortable during all the club evenings?” True. Come to think of it, every club evening is a “Wife’s night”.
But, a “Wife’s day” is much more significant. It’s an annual day of thanksgiving by the husband and by the husband alone unlike “Mother’s day” when she is venerated by both the husband and children.