It is the Creator God who decides on the sex of the baby being formed in a mother’s womb. The parents have no control over it at all. And God maintains a perfect balance between female foetus and male foetus. It is always on 1 to 1 basis. He does not allow any imbalance in their numbers.
It is God’s plan that the earthlings should not live alone but live as a pair. In other words, every human being must get married. That’s why He produced Eve and gave her to Adam. Adam never asked for a companion. He didn’t even know anything about a woman and what she would look like. When God presented a beautiful creature before him, he became curious and started comparing his features with Eve’s. She became his wife straightway in the garden of Eden.
But, we hear that in some countries the female to male ratio is terribly one sided. For instance in China there are only 858 females for every 1000 males and in India 914: 1000. Who was responsible for this imbalance? The people. In Indian villages, a female baby is put to death immediately on birth. Some village panchayats have laid down such a diktat. Their reason is: Only a male child would perpetuate the family’s name and help it multiply. A girl child would migrate to some other family after marriage for good!
The thinking in China too is similar. So, they resort to female infanticide. Since one can verify the sex of an unborn child, it is easy to destroy a female foetus right in the womb. The problem became more serious from 1980 when China had decreed the one child norm. “The only child must be a male child,” the parents say.
And so we see the demographic mismatch in these two countries.
Arranged marriage seems to be the norm in China just as it is in India. Love marriage is also in vogue in India but is getting less and less popular. In such a scenario, how do marriages materialise?
In China it is usually the woman who picks out her husband. Men being greater in number, every young man would keep his fingers crossed hoping that some girl would show a selecting finger at him. Women in general are well educated in China and naturally they would want a man of good qualifications.
A similar situation will come about in India too. Instead of ‘bride seeing’ it is going to be ‘groom seeing’ henceforth. How will a girl choose her husband in the seeing function? By the looks or qualification or family status or the Man’s financial status? It’s possible that software engineers or other engineers may cross examine the young man and harass him with questions like in a job interview. The SW engineer knows exactly what she wants and she would not settle for anyone less than a post graduate engineer who had secured his degree fromUSA. For others, the consideration may be financial security and so a Man’s income and earning capacity would matter a lot.
‘Not so good looking’ girls also will stand a very good chance. A Man who has been rejected by several girls may opt for this specimen. What matters in the circumstances is, a woman’s physique and a healthy body and shape and her looks wouldn’t count much at all.
In such a situation, some men would have to remain single and die as bachelors while all the young women would stand married, happily married. It’s highly possible that there may be no divorce at all. That would be an extraordinary India then indeed!