Answer me, God!

One incident took away almost everything from my world. Aayush, my younger son was only 4 months old then; I could have never heard the word “mamma” from him  neither would I knew how well my elder son, Aryan could sing or how handsome he looks in his all white cricketing attire. It all happened little more than a year back but it is still so vivid in my mind as if it happened just a week before. I am writing this on the eve of my birthday, thanks to the saviour for he gave me an opportunity to celebrate my birthday this year with my family.

We met with a  road accident when we were coming back from Pondicherry to Chennai after spending a superb holiday. Our red car, as Aryan recalls, “Papa’s red car fell and broke into pieces so papa bought a big black car.” Our car was rammed by a xylo from behind and the world became darkness to me.

When I was back to my senses, a month had passed and I was still in the hospital with a severe head injury. The worst thing that happened during this accident was that I suffered from retrograde amnesia and lost my last one-year memory. Due to that, I even forgot my younger son, since he was only 4 months then. Still, I keep on urging everyone individually, not to disclose this to him when he grows up. He will be very hurt when he will know his mother did not remember him. Many more things happened in that one-month period when I was in the hospital, but I was simply clueless.

Finally, one day I was released from the hospital, still on a prescription to continue my high dose medicines for an indefinite time. One day I was just lying in my bed, and found my aunt’s digital camera. She came down from Kolkata during those wretched days to help us. I took the camera and started browsing the pics in it. I saw the first pic, and then the second and then as I pressed the next button, the third pic came up. I stared at the picture blankly. It was Aayush’s pic, with one of his leg wrapped with a white plaster. I immediately ran to my hubby to enquire further. He didn’t hide a bit and told me Aayush fractured his leg during the accident. If that was not all, the fracture got detected after a couple of days when the leg started to swell. Poor Aayush underwent a massive pain for those two days.  In addition, my elder son, Aryan who was only 3 and half years then, broke his left collarbone and was in trauma since he was the only one who saw the whole thing. I became numb and only my tears, which do not follow any rules, continued to roll down my cheek. He also said that every night both the kids kept on crying. The younger one tried to pronounce “mamma” and kept on crying and the elder one, kept on asking everyone when his mother will come back to him.

For better care, my hubby sent me to my mothers place to Kolkata after a few days post my return from the hospital. During that stay, I would ask my mother about all that happened when I was not in my senses. She would always start her narration with Anirban, my hubby, how he took care of me. He was badly injured too in the accident, 21 stitches in his head and with a broken shoulder, still he spent all the nights in the hospital sitting next to me. His routine was somewhat like this; he joined his office few days after the accident – he would go to his office in the morning, return by 5 pm, then feed and make Aryan sleep (He was not allowing anyone to feed him and making him sleep).  After Aryan slept, hubby would have his dinner and go to the hospital with my dinner. He would feed me and then used to sit the whole night awake next to my bed and the next day morning again the routine continued…. I always love my hubby a lot but after hearing all this from my mother, that love increased manifolds and the respect I had for him increased too. He too was badly injured and required proper rest after the accident, but due to his commitments then he did not get any rest and now he is suffering from the side effects. 6 months after the accident, he started getting tremendous back pain, for which he still have sleepless nights. After a check up from the doctor, we came to know during the accident, he badly hurt his back, if he would have taken proper rest then after the accident, now he would not suffer from the side affects. I am very lucky to have him as my best half; he showed me what life is and where happiness lies.

I had no clue what my parents went through as i am their only daughter. Few months back when I was visiting  my aunt, the topic reappeared. She disclosed that my mother kept fasting because I could not eat properly when I was in the hospital. She used to tell, “I will leave my fasting only when my daughter starts eating normal diet.” ‘Hat’s off to you maa, you have shown me what mothers are for and thanks baba for your support.I know you too went through a lot of pain !”

A year flew by but the stigma of the incidence is still crystal-clear in my mind. Very frequently, I get the memories flushing my mind and I always ask with moist eyes – ‘why it was me and my family, who had to experience such a horrible fate.’ This is the only question that I have for Him, the power known as God!

True – Lies!

At last she was able to select a gift after an hour of startling window shopping. However she was not sure whether he will like it or not.  With fluttering butterflies in her stomach, she went to the park, where finally they were destined to meet after 3 long years.

She got married to Abhi couple of years back. Not that she was head over heels about that, yet her life maintained status quo until one day Karan came back. Karan was her boyfriend for a decent period during her pink age but due to family constraints they were compelled to become travelers of two paths diverged. It was extremely difficult for her, Jiya, to forget Karan, thanks to those wonderfully passionate and intimate moments they shared during the purple patch of their relationship. Within a year’s time Jiya had to prepare herself to tie the knot with the “most eligible one” chosen and approved by her parents, who wanted her to settle down.

Jiya with time compromised with the situation and slowly became involved in her life post marriage. Abhi, her husband proved to be a really caring and loving man. However Jiya could never love him as she did love Karan. Yet the life was smooth; her home, a caring husband in Abhi and her office became her life. One day, a friend from Jiya’s office wanted her to take a peek at  her would be husband as she took out a photo from her purse and handed it over to Jiya. She cared for a glimpse and instantly froze dumbstruck recognizing the person in the photo. Needless to mention, it was Karan. Her life took a U turn when she and Karan came across each other in the birthday party of their common connection. From then Karan and Jiya stayed connected through mails, late night chats and calls. Jiya noticed that her suppressed emotions, feelings were oozing with passion. She again started to build castles in the air and the same feeling of floating on to cloud nine resumed. One day Karan asked her out, “Let’s meet sweets!”  She was excited to hear the word sweets, her pet name given by Karan when they first time acknowledged their affair. Jiya was very excited and gleefully accepted the proposal; since then she started to paint the city in the color of her passion.

Karan came to the park after almost an hour past the scheduled meeting time. Jiya had a long day at office, and then she went shopping to pick the best gift for him. Even though she was exhausted, she waited for him to come, deeply lost into her past;  images came flashing into her mind one after the other; each one equally romantic and passionate. It was getting late but she hardly minded as she was in no hurry to return home. She desperately wanted to be with Karan as long as possible, even for the entire night as Abhi was not in town. She was still engulfed into her adventurous thoughts, virtually feeling Karan’s presence; his touch and kisses all over like he used to do. “Indeed he was the king of good times,” Jiya thought and chuckled in her mind. Suddenly she felt a tap on her shoulder, she turned back and it was Karan.

Karan said, “Hey sweets; I got stuck in an urgent official work!” Jiya shrugged and gave an expression to suggest that it was fine. They exchanged a quick hug and then they both walked  inside the park in quest of an isolated place and sat side by side when they found one. It was getting dark to darker and Jiya was in anticipation that something might happen soon. Suddenly Karan wrapped his left arm around her shoulder and lifted her chin with his right hand and lowered his face. They were almost within kissing distance when Jiya closed her eyes, her cerise lips trembling in fervor urging to get locked by his lips. Moments passed nothing happened; Jiya opened her eyes and saw Karan staring at her. “Still mesmerized by my beauty,” Jiya thought looking at Karan and broke into a sweet mirth. “Hey, what are you looking at, so intensely?”asked Jiya. Karan did not answer but to her surprise came up with the most unexpected query, “Hey what you like about Abhi?”

Jiya was hit by a bulldozer. She did not know how to react to this. However she recovered her composure and promptly came up with the truthful answer. “Abhi is a very handsome and very good by heart,” she commented. “I am not claiming that he is a poster boy of any sorts but he indeed has a pleasing personality; everyone around him is very fond of him thanks to his versatile talents and extraordinary IQ. He has done a lot for me and genuinely loves me.” Karan did not show any reaction and swayed away from her. Jiya was wondering what will happen next when Karan suddenly commented, “Sweets you have lost your charm. You looked far more ravishing before marriage, when I was charming you.” Jiya was utterly confused upon hearing that and thought how someone’s look can change so drastically with time! She still had the same eyes, same nose, same face and the same crimson lips. One can either lose or gain weight and that can only make the difference, if at all. In Jiya’s case even that was not true as she was still equally appealing, which she knew by seeing the love in Abhi’s eyes and lust in the eyes of quite a few others.

Jiya said to Karan that she had bought a gift for him to celebrate their reunion after 3 long years. Karan however surprised her by saying that he cannot take it. He further clarified that he was in no mood to complicate things by doing this. Jiya was visibly upset but it seemed nothing bothered Karan. After a few minutes however Karan suddenly asked Jiya to show the gift to him. Jiya sighed in relief and thought finally things might turn her way and handed over the packet to him. Karan opened the gift wrap and found a branded watch in there. He took time to examine it very minutely and then handed it back to Jiya and said, “I told you sweets I simply cannot take it. Maybe you should give it to any of your cousins!” Jiya was completely shattered and felt a valiant slap of insult on her face. She stood up to leave and said, “I guess this relation will not work out,so lets stop being in touch!” Jiya was astonished to spot Karan’s indifference and his passive agreement to the proposal even without protest. Jiya walked out of the park and she threw  Karan out from her life as she headed home, confused, rattled and with a bleeding heart.

That night her eyes poured and she did not even attempt to cease the flow of tears down her cheek. She felt remorse for wasting couple of months for Karan, who never seemed to have any feeling left for her. She felt terrible for being unfaithful to Abhi, the person for whom Jiya was the world. She became depressed acknowledging that she was running behind a glittering image of lie at the expense of the eternal truth.

Next day when Abhi was back home, Jiya went up to him and hugged him tight and whispered in his ears, “I am sorry honey, I am all yours; I love you Abhi, you are the best part of me”. Abhi still in her embrace felt that she was sobbing. He kissed on her forehead and asked, “Hey what happened all of a sudden?” Jiya did not reply but provided an enigmatic smile almost saying, “How does it matter?” She came closer to him and stood on his toes. Instantly their lips locked and it remained locked for quite a while … may be till eternity!

my husband is an alien

The sun was setting and my husband and I were sitting in our newly bought arm chairs in the balcony…So to say one of the rare times in life. We were not into a deep conversation just sitting besides each other, watching the sun-set and conversing without really speaking a word. Suddenly he started a conversation by saying ” I have never told you this before but I had been kidnapped by aliens when I was a child and in fact I am an alien”…I laughed and said of course I know Men are from Mars!! He tried to tell me multiple times that indeed he has been in the outer space and is an alien..I thought for a moment and agreed that YES indeed he is an alien. The topic got changed and ever since the statement he has made comes very handy to me…unlike other husbands he does not detest shopping in fact he loves going around malls “checking out” deals…I earlier used to wonder how he is so different from all the men I have heard about, but now all I need to tell myself is “don’t you know he is an alien!!”

alienUnlike most husbands he never fusses about food – of course like most husbands there is away to his heart through his tummy but if my sour mood reflects on the food I have cooked he will never let me know until i settle down with my plate and take a quick bite myself.I feel so bad for him but am kinda feeling better saying “He is okay with this not so yummy food because he is an alien :-)”

He insists that on weekends I go out with my friends and spend sometime by myself with no additional responsibilities of being a wife, mother etc. I wonder do all husbands do this and then I tell myself my husband is an alien….He helps me cook, clean..lets me cry as much as I want , whenever I want, does not forget my birthday, remembers my favourite chocolate when shopping out of the country , watches romantic comedy movies with me without falling off to sleep, baby sits our son without a hint of crib..I wonder if all husbands do this..then I tell myself mine does because he is an alien!

Ever since he has told me this truth about himself it is easier to explain so many things in life! And whoever said Men are from Mars has indeed shared a useful fact to keep handy! Well about the other women I dont know but I surely am from earth!

Small Treasures of my Life

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My Dear Husband is a very cool, reserve, serious kind of person. We had a courtship of around three years and finally we got married on March, 2008. I can never ask my God to give me something more than this. I was very delighted, happy and overjoyed to marry the love of my life.

It was a week before my first birthday after our marriage, my husband was on leave that day. He told me that he was not feeling well so he would take a off from his office. As usual, I left for my office at 8 ‘o’ clock, in the afternoon I called my hubby to enquire about his health, he didn’t picked up the phone. I tried several times, but all in vain. Suddenly, some bizarre imaginations came up in my mind, “Sometimes I spoke to myself, “Hey Bhagwan, Don’t know whether he had taken his lunch or not”, and after sometimes I prayed “sab kuch thik rakhna bhagwan (God, please keep everything fine)”. With all these going up in my mind, I finally went to my boss cabin and asked him whether I can leave early. Though he was not willing to permit me but when he saw tears in my eyes, he told me “Go Tumpa, your husband needs you at home?” Trust me this dialogue, reminded me the famous scene from the movie “Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge” (hope everyone remembers) where Amrish Puri says to Kajol “Ja Simran ja, je le apni zindagi”(Go Simran go, live your life).

I rushed to my cabin took my purse and headed for my home. I reached home within 15 minutes but to my utter surprise when I reached home, I saw the door was half open (my husband is very particular in locking the doors and windows), I went inside, no one in the drawing room, no one in the kitchen, finally the bedroom, my husband was in the bed covering his face with a bedsheet. I found it strange but accepted that he was asleep. Now, I went near my study table to put my purse, I saw a big greeting card over there, I opened it and to my surprise it was a lovely birthday card. I smiled and was trying to get a picture of what was going around. Then as usual I went to the refrigerator for a glass of water, as I opened the door I saw a big Black forest heart shaped cake, I was thrilled and at the same time anxious. Finally when I opened the cupboard, I saw a packet kept at the top self, I Opened it.

Oh! My God, to my surprise it was a beautiful diamond ring packed very nicely in a box. I got the complete picture of what was going on from the morning. I finally went up to my husband, removed the bedsheet from his face, he gave a very naughty smile and wished me “Happy Birthday in Advance”, I was confused and asked him “Why did you gifted me so early when there is still a week left for my birthday?” He replied that “I would like you to treasure this moment for your whole life, so the celebrations would start from today onwards.” So for the next 7 days we had gone for movie, had candle light dinner, went for shopping, went to a orphanage and spent a day with the poor and needy children, went for picnic, and finally on my birthday, my Dear Husband threw a very big birthday bash for all my friends and relatives.

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I never thought that my husband could give me such a big surprise. Many Many thanks to him. This blog is completely dedicated to him.

Do You Want a Successful Marriage?

Successful marriage

Marriage changes the life drastically and this decision has an effect on both the parties. And so after you get married there might be days when you will feel that things are so different than you ever thought. Some things may come as a shock in your way. And this is the thing especially after 6 months of marriage. Many females think that life has changed and is totally different than they have expected. Things are really tough to handle. Wife may feel that husband is ignoring and hubby feels that wife is nagging. Couple marries to fight with all the problems of life together. And so it is a mutual responsibility to keep each other happy and satisfied in a marriage. Here are a few tips that can give you an idea about how to have a happy married life.

The first and the foremost thing that is required in a successful marriage is respecting and communicating with each other. Mutual respect for each other is vital in any relationship. Never ignore or make your spouse feel down in front of anyone. There are a few personal things which must be sorted out only between the couple. And so talk about certain things only during private moments. Communicate freely and talk about any issue that bothers you in a relationship.

Helping each other is another important thing that can be a key to a successful marriage. Do all the work mutually. Share responsibilities between you. Today, most of the couples believe in double income. And for such couples sharing the responsibility is a vital thing.

Giving space to one another is also an important thing for a successful marriage. Of course, couples are meant to stay and be together during thick and thin of life. But many a times, people forget that every individual needs some space in his or her own right. So, you must understand when your partner needs space. These are a few things that can help you have a successful marriage.