Answer me, God!

One incident took away almost everything from my world. Aayush, my younger son was only 4 months old then; I could have never heard the word “mamma” from him  neither would I knew how well my elder son, Aryan could sing or how handsome he looks in his all white cricketing attire. It all happened little more than a year back but it is still so vivid in my mind as if it happened just a week before. I am writing this on the eve of my birthday, thanks to the saviour for he gave me an opportunity to celebrate my birthday this year with my family.

We met with a  road accident when we were coming back from Pondicherry to Chennai after spending a superb holiday. Our red car, as Aryan recalls, “Papa’s red car fell and broke into pieces so papa bought a big black car.” Our car was rammed by a xylo from behind and the world became darkness to me.

When I was back to my senses, a month had passed and I was still in the hospital with a severe head injury. The worst thing that happened during this accident was that I suffered from retrograde amnesia and lost my last one-year memory. Due to that, I even forgot my younger son, since he was only 4 months then. Still, I keep on urging everyone individually, not to disclose this to him when he grows up. He will be very hurt when he will know his mother did not remember him. Many more things happened in that one-month period when I was in the hospital, but I was simply clueless.

Finally, one day I was released from the hospital, still on a prescription to continue my high dose medicines for an indefinite time. One day I was just lying in my bed, and found my aunt’s digital camera. She came down from Kolkata during those wretched days to help us. I took the camera and started browsing the pics in it. I saw the first pic, and then the second and then as I pressed the next button, the third pic came up. I stared at the picture blankly. It was Aayush’s pic, with one of his leg wrapped with a white plaster. I immediately ran to my hubby to enquire further. He didn’t hide a bit and told me Aayush fractured his leg during the accident. If that was not all, the fracture got detected after a couple of days when the leg started to swell. Poor Aayush underwent a massive pain for those two days.  In addition, my elder son, Aryan who was only 3 and half years then, broke his left collarbone and was in trauma since he was the only one who saw the whole thing. I became numb and only my tears, which do not follow any rules, continued to roll down my cheek. He also said that every night both the kids kept on crying. The younger one tried to pronounce “mamma” and kept on crying and the elder one, kept on asking everyone when his mother will come back to him.

For better care, my hubby sent me to my mothers place to Kolkata after a few days post my return from the hospital. During that stay, I would ask my mother about all that happened when I was not in my senses. She would always start her narration with Anirban, my hubby, how he took care of me. He was badly injured too in the accident, 21 stitches in his head and with a broken shoulder, still he spent all the nights in the hospital sitting next to me. His routine was somewhat like this; he joined his office few days after the accident – he would go to his office in the morning, return by 5 pm, then feed and make Aryan sleep (He was not allowing anyone to feed him and making him sleep).  After Aryan slept, hubby would have his dinner and go to the hospital with my dinner. He would feed me and then used to sit the whole night awake next to my bed and the next day morning again the routine continued…. I always love my hubby a lot but after hearing all this from my mother, that love increased manifolds and the respect I had for him increased too. He too was badly injured and required proper rest after the accident, but due to his commitments then he did not get any rest and now he is suffering from the side effects. 6 months after the accident, he started getting tremendous back pain, for which he still have sleepless nights. After a check up from the doctor, we came to know during the accident, he badly hurt his back, if he would have taken proper rest then after the accident, now he would not suffer from the side affects. I am very lucky to have him as my best half; he showed me what life is and where happiness lies.

I had no clue what my parents went through as i am their only daughter. Few months back when I was visiting  my aunt, the topic reappeared. She disclosed that my mother kept fasting because I could not eat properly when I was in the hospital. She used to tell, “I will leave my fasting only when my daughter starts eating normal diet.” ‘Hat’s off to you maa, you have shown me what mothers are for and thanks baba for your support.I know you too went through a lot of pain !”

A year flew by but the stigma of the incidence is still crystal-clear in my mind. Very frequently, I get the memories flushing my mind and I always ask with moist eyes – ‘why it was me and my family, who had to experience such a horrible fate.’ This is the only question that I have for Him, the power known as God!

Natural Ways to Reduce Back Pain

Back pain is the common problem for many people, especially for older people. Back pain can give you sleepless night and can carry for whole life.  There are many reasons behind back pain like wrong posture of sitting, sitting for a long time without any rest, lifting heavy weights in wrong position and many other ways.

You may try many medicines to get relief from back pain but not every medicine works for long time. You may even go for operation but later it can create more problems. So to get permanent relief from back pain you can go for natural ways that are mentioned below:

1)      Exercise:

There are many exercises that can work to reduce back pain such as stretching, slow moving exercise and yoga.  Yoga can help in increasing flexibility and increase oxygen level.  There are different exercises and yoga postures that can be tried to give more strength to your back muscles.

2)      Diet:

Diet is the best natural way of reducing your back pain. Fueling your body with vitamins and minerals can help your body muscles to be healthy. Vitamins are known for reducing the body pain. So intake of vitamin foods can help increasing muscles growth.

3)      Supporting your Back:

Giving enough support to your back can help in reducing back pain. If you are working in a office then get an ergonomic chair that are adjustable and support your back in great form. You can even buy a lumbar pillow that can give you extra support.

4)      Stretching when you awake:

When you wake up in the morning have a stretching work of your whole body and take a deep breath. This can loosen up muscles of your body.

Try out above mentioned natural ways so to reduce the pain of your back. Back pain can increase as your age keeps on increasing and if it is not treated earlier stage it can cause a great problem.

First Aid-The best Aid

first-aid-kitNow we are in a restless world and many accidents occur.Every time we can’t wait for the doctor to arrive.It should be necessary for everyone to know some basic first aid treatments so that we can take care of our loved ones.


If it is failing, give artificial respiration – Mouth to Mouth or Mouth to Nose.


Arrest the bleeding and protect the wound. Apply direct or indirect pressure. Cover with a dressing, apply a pad and firm bandage. elevate. Keep at rest.


Immobilize it with a well padded stiff support reaching the joints on either side. Apply bandages on either side of the site and at the joints on either side, support.


A burn is caused by dry heat and a scald by moist heat like steam, very hot water or oil. Immediately cool the area with cold water – for 15 minutes till pain subsides. Do not break blisters, or apply anything on the burns. Cover with a sterile or clean cloth, pad and bandage. Give fluids.


Sit him up facing the breeze with the head slightly forward. Ask him to breath through the mouth and Not to blow his nose. Apply a cold compress over the nose. The soft part of the nose may be pinched close with the fingers for 10 mins. Cold application on the back of the neck and forehead may help.


Do not press the bag (of the sting). Use forceps and remove the sting. apply cold or weak ammonia.


Wash with soap and plenty of water. Loose bandage may be applied. Get quick medical aid.


Keep patient calm. Wash with plenty of water and soap. Do Not Rub hard. First apply a constrictive bandage on the heart side of the bite. (Not to be applied continuously for more than 20 mins.). Do not incise or attempt to suck the wound. Get aid quickly. Try to identify the snake.


Lay him down and loosen the clothing around chest and waist. Turn head to one side. The legs may be raised a little. Do Not attempt to give any solids or liquids. On recovery a small quantity of a drink may be given and he may be allowed to sit up and move after rest.


If you are not sure of the treatment please keep quiet and do not try anything as it may cause harm to the patient.




Behind every tear


A story of emotions

So varied,

As it wraps

Nay, traps man

In the web

Of living reality

To the core.


A tear, so precious,

It awakens the soul

As the world rolls.

The tear bathes

Our thoughts

Leaving one

Relieved or relaxed.


Tears, medicine

To reduce pain.

Tears, universality,

The only companion

In crisis.